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Compliments is the Glue to any Good Relationship, Like the Honey is to the Bees! Learn the Art of Complimenting People Including Yourself !

Compliments is the Glue to any Good Relationship, Like the Honey is to the Bees!

S. ELIA

Published by S. ELIA, 2021.

While every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this book, the publisher assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions, or for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein.

COMPLIMENTS IS THE GLUE TO ANY GOOD RELATIONSHIP, LIKE THE HONEY IS TO THE BEES!

First edition. July 17, 2021.

Copyright © 2021 S. ELIA.

Written by S. ELIA.

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Compliments is the Glue to any Good Relationship, Like the Honey is to the Bees!

Further Reading: Exercise For a Good Posture: Good posture means good looks and good health

Compliments encourage A strong positive self image which is the best preparation for success in life. If you want to have a good life and better human interactions, learn how to give genuine compliments with a warm smile at the right place and time.

BY S.ELIA AUTHOR

© 2021 by S.ELIA all rights reserved Self published by S.Elia

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1)PROLOGUE. 2)WHAT IS A COMPLIMENT ANYWAY. 3)THE SECRET OF COMPLIMENTING PEOPLE 4)HOW TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS 5)HOW TO RECEIVE COMPLIMENTS 6)COMPLIMENTING IS THE OPPOSITE OF BULLYING 7)COMPLIMENT YOUR WIFE 8)COMPLIMENT YOUR HUSBAND 9)COMPLIMENT YOUR GIRLFRIEND 10)COMPLIMENT YOUR BOYFRIEND 11)COMPLIMENT YOUR KIDS AND TEACH THEM TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT OTHERS 12)COMPLIMENT YOUR PARENTS FOR A JOB WELL DONE, RAISING GOOD KIDS: YOU AND YOUR SIBLINGS 13)COMPLIMENT AND CELEBRATE YOUR SIBLINGS 14)COMPLIMENT YOUR FRIENDS 15)COMPLIMENT YOUR RELATIVES

16)COMPLIMENT YOUR COWORKERS 17)COMPLIMENT YOUR NEIGHBORS 18)COMPLIMENT STRANGERS WHEN THE OCCASION ARISES 19)SCHOOLS SHOULD TEACH KIDS HOW TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT OTHERS BY PRACTICING THE GOLDEN RULE 20)COMPLIMENTING IS THE OPPOSITE OF BULLYING 21)LEARN TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING. 22)FINALLY IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO COMPLIMENT ..YOURSELF. 23)CONCLUSION 24) EPILOGUE 25)A SHORT LIST OF COMMON COMPLIMENTS YOU CAN USE AT THE APPROPRIATE TIME 26)HERE IS THE LIST OF COMPLIMENTS 27)From the inside cover: 28)From the Author 29)FOR THE BACK COVER OF THE BOOK.

PROLOGUE. Words are more powerful than any weapon and the human tongue is like a double edge knife that can do both good with praise and compliments and can cause immense damage with contempt , vulgarity and bullying.

As you can see the tongue is shaped like a double edge knife and can be used for the good, with praising, kindness and compliments, uplifting peoples emotions, and for contempt, vulgarity and bullying, scarring people with emotional scars for life. The tongue has no bones but the words uttered by the tongue can make or break the human spirit which is worse than broken bones. Broken bones easily mend and heal but a broken spirit never heals! Appreciation , praising and compliments uttered by the human tongue can uplift the human spirit better than any medicine. Humans with the gift of speech and a plethora of words in their vocabulary can express their thoughts, desires, wishes, emotions, fears and feelings. Many books were written about the importance of using correctly our tongues when it comes to the spoken words of our speech. In the bible alone you will find many quotes ing the tongue in the spoken word. Here are some quotes from the bible about the spoken word. “Words do more than convey information. The power of our words can actually destroy one’s spirit, even stir up hatred and violence. The spoken word is a unique and powerful gift from God),Hebrews 11-3” Our words have the power to destroy and the power to build up . proverbs 12:6. “The tongue has the power of life and death, proverb 18:21). Are we using words to build up people or destroy them? Are they filled with hate or love, bitterness or blessing, complaining or compliments, lust or love, victory or defeat? Like tools they can be used to help us reach our goals or to send us spiraling into a deep depression.”

“Let your conversation be always full of grace”. Many other books written by many authors tell us about the importance of the proper use of the spoken word and warn us about the detrimental effects of the ill thought use of the spoken word. Compliments wisely used at the right time uplift the spirits of both the receiving the compliment and the giver of the compliment. In this book we are going to discuss the proper use of compliments at the right time for the benefit of all. We are also going to discuss how to avoid using your gift of speech to hurt the feelings of others by keeping your mouth shut. Your motto should be : be generous with genuine compliments for everyone and everything, and if you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut . That was the advise of my father who considered the bad spoken words like the saliva in your mouth, once you spit it out you cannot take it back no matter how many times you say sorry and apologize. Your tongue is like a loaded gun and once the bullet(WORDS) leave the chamber(mouth) of the gun and you hit someone causing injury, you can never take that bullet back and undo the damage caused by that bullet(words). So be careful how you use your spoken words and if you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut. It will keep you out of trouble and it can even save your life! Ill thought words can ruin friendships and relationships for ever. Compliments can build friendships and relationships for ever too. I think that the analogy by my father of the spoken words to the spitting saliva and the loaded gun, is the best analogy I ever heard . It is my hope that my readers will that and make sure to articulate their words very carefully.

2)WHAT IS A COMPLIMENT ANYWAY.

What is a compliment anyway ? According to the dictionary, A compliment is a polite remark that you say to someone to show that you like their appearance, appreciate their qualities, or approve of what they have done. ... If you consider something that a person says or does as a compliment, it convinces you of your own good qualities, or that the person appreciates you Giving Compliments is an Important Key to Success in life. Receiving compliments is an appreciation and a blessing from others that make us feel good about ourselves, our qualities and abilities.. Let your tongue speak what your heart thinks The famous author Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” But many people struggle with the simple act of appreciating and complimenting other people. Every day, many people feel awkward or uncomfortable with the act of giving or receiving compliments to those around them. Giving and receiving compliments leads to improved communication, better relationships, and more fulfillment. Compliments is the glue to any human interaction and relationship. It is like the honey to the bees. There is a saying “ that you can attract more bees with one drop of honey that ten gallons of vinegar“. Some people do not like to give or receive any complements . Sociologist have categorized three responses to a compliment: acceptance, deflection or rejection. Instead of humbly accept or reject the kind words, individuals often choose to deflect or dilute the compliment. Perhaps the hardest part is that they do not know what exactly to say when giving or receiving compliments. I guess people need to learn how to give genuine compliments to others and accept graciously when they receive compliments with a warm smile.. Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and pointing out other people’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievement.

You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of others , but unless you express your thoughts, nobody knows what you think. When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliments everybody hears you and appreciate it. So make it a habit to make your thoughts known with compliments.

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If you want to have a good life and better human interactions, learn how to give genuine compliments with a warm smile at the right place and time.

3)THE SECRET OF COMPLIMENTING PEOPLE The secret to complimenting anyone or anything is not to memorize a lot of compliments from a huge list of compliments and start complimenting everyone and everything at any time. In fact you do not have to memorize any compliments or have a huge collection of compliments to use them when you think it is the right time. The secret of complimenting others effectively is to have your eyes and ears open and genuinely praise the looks, the talents, good behavior or good actions of other people when they look good or do something worthy of praising. that’s all! For example your girlfriend comes to your place looking amazing. You should genuinely compliment her like this , “ sweetheart , you look gorgeous, I am proud of you! Or “honey you are amazing , I am a lucky guy to have you .” watch her how her eyes glow with happiness’. That’s the purpose of genuine compliments, to make people feel good and happy about themselves. A stranger helps you by holding the door open for you, it is your chance to praise and compliment that action of the stranger. “Thank you very much I appreciate that, you have good manners! Somebody gives you directions for a nearby address, “say thank you very much, I appreciate your help!” All people have some good qualities and some faults and they know about their strengths and weaknesses. They expect other people to appreciate and comment with compliments for their good looks and good qualities. When other people compliment their qualities and strengths they feel good about themselves by reinforcing the validity of their good looks and good qualities. In reality the job of all of us is to give nice compliments to others about their good looks , good behavior, good manners and good work . “You look good in that dress“. “You have a good posture.” “ You did an excellent job.” “ You have a nice smile!” “You are good in math, in reading, in writing.......” “ You have beautiful eyes.”” You have nice hair. “ Always give genuine compliments with a smile and Never overdo it or exaggerate, because it makes the compliment cheap and tasteless.

We all have faults and sometimes we are sensitive about our faults and try to hide them. People feel uncomfortable when other people talk about their faults. Your motto should be : never to comment or mention other peoples faults or weaknesses. You see somebody with a crooked nose, you should never ever say , “you have a beautiful nose “because that is not a compliment but a rude sarcastic comment . If someone has missing teeth, you never tell them you have beautiful teeth because it is a sarcastic comment. People hate sarcasm and the people with poor sarcastic comments. Instead , compliment that person about their good qualities, their beautiful hair, their good manners, their work ethic, their good voice or whatever good quality they have and say nothing about their shortcomings. In a nutshell, the secret of complimenting other people is to praise them about their good qualities , their talents , good looks, good manners, good deeds and keeping your mouth shut by avoiding to tell them anything about their faults and insecurities. You observed something nice on someone, give them a genuine compliment with a big smile. Like this: That dress looks good on you, you have a good taste! “You have beautiful hair. “You have a nice smile.” ‘ you are good”, “you are smart”,” you are funny’, I am proud of you”. “your mother should be proud of you”,” nice shoes’...... When you have nothing nice to say just keep your mouth shut! Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and pointing out other people’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievement. You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of others but unless you express your thoughts, nobody knows what you are thinking. When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliments, everybody hears your thoughts and appreciate it. So make it a habit to make your thoughts known with nice compliments.

4)HOW TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS Giving compliments is the easiest and best thing you can do for others and yourself. Just keep your eyes and ears open and appreciate and praise people about their good looks, good manners , good deeds , accomplishments and anything that will make people aware that you appreciate and value their talents, deeds and efforts to look good and be good persons.

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Be Genuine: When you give compliments, be genuine and positive. Say what you mean and mean what you say with a smile on your face. Be Specific: Let that person know exactly what they've done , what quality or talent they have that you appreciate. Let them know if their action or quality impacts you in a positive way. “You have a nice smile,” “ your smiling face made my day!” “ You have a nice dog!.” “ You have a nice garden! ““You look good in that dress!” “ nice haircut” , “ nice shoes”, I enjoy looking at your rose garden”. etc.

Make it Personal :personalize the compliment for that specific person, for their good qualities, good looks, good manners, their talents and abilities. “John you are the best in math“.” Julie you have a nice smile.” “ Susana , you are a lucky woman, You have good kids!” ’ Peter you have the best bicycle!” “ nice job Pat”, “Nice wheels”, tom , you are the best singer”. ’you have a nice voice” Try giving at least five genuine compliments every day to people that really deserve to be appreciated and complimented for their good looks, talents ,efforts and good deeds. Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and

pointing out other people’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievement. You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of others , but unless you express your thoughts nobody knows what you think. When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliments everybody hears you and appreciate it. So make it a habit to make your thoughts known with compliments. The effects of compliments is huge. A kind, genuine, thoughtful compliment is like a form of magic—it has the power to turn someone’s day around in an instant and make them feel proud of themselves, appreciated and happy. Compliments can be a useful tool to nurture and enhance relationships for life. Compliments create positive energy and benefits both the giver as well as the recipient. A Thoughtful compliment will strengthen your relationships, boost happiness and definitely bring a smile to someone's face. You are the hero to the people you compliment. Make it a habit to give generous genuine compliments to others and with daily practice you get better . Practice makes you perfect as they say.

5)HOW TO RECEIVE COMPLIMENTS Everybody has some good qualities , faults, strengths and weaknesses . People feel good when others appreciate and comment on their good looks, talents and efforts. Everybody will receive some kind of a comment from others . When that happens and somebody comment of your good looks, good behavior or good talents just smile with grace and say: THANK YOU. Whether that person that compliments you is a friend or a stranger it does not really matter. The fact is that they appreciate, praise and ire your talents, looks or efforts and all you have to do is :Acknowledge the compliment and believe the person is telling you the truth. just look them in the eyes, smile and say a simple thank you. Never ever argue or be apologetic, even if you disagree with their praise. The fact is that they feel that you disserve the praise, and a genuine positive praise should always be welcomed with a smile.J Even if you do not feel that you deserve the compliment, say thank you and keep your mouth shut. There is no point of arguing about a genuine praise which other people feel that you deserve. Perhaps you should learn to appreciate more your qualities and talents you have.

6)COMPLIMENTING IS THE OPPOSITE OF BULLYING Compliments have the opposite effect of bullying. With compliments people feel good about themselves and has a positive effect on their feelings. Any form of compliment , praise and appreciation make the receiving person feel good about themselves On the contrary verbal and physical bullying hurt people’s feeling and make them feel bad. Bullying entails three key elements: an intent to harm, a power imbalance, and repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior. Physical bullying includes hitting, punching, kicking, spitting, tripping, slamming into a locker or wall , and a range of other behaviors that involve physical aggression This type of bullying is worse than verbal bullying and actually is a criminal offence and it should be reported to the police. Cyber bullying is the bullying over the internet and it is as bad or even worse than the verbal and physical bullying. With bullying people try to put their victim down and hurt their feelings. The tongue is like a sharp knife, it can kill without a physical wound or drawing blood. With genuine compliments people try to make others feel good about themselves by appreciating and praising others. If you ever have to choose between bullying and compliments I hope that you always choose the compliments to make others feel better. Compliments not only make others feel good but you feel good too! Always, the golden rule: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU”. I do not think that anyone in his right mind wants to be bullied. So if you do not want to be bullied, DO NOT BULLY ANY BODY ELSE! You like to receive Nice compliments, so give nice compliments to others too.

7)COMPLIMENT YOUR WIFE

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If you are married and have a wife ,there is a good reason why you chose that particular woman to be your wife. You chose her for her beauty, her good qualities, her honesty, her warmth and a myriad other reasons that make her , your choice above the rest of the women. You swept her of her feet with your charm , your compliments, warmth, ion, strength and your good looks and finally she is your wife, the love of your life. You promised her to love her and have a home and a family together.

Once you are married and have your own home and family do not take her for granted and forget to treat her with respect and appreciate her for what she is and her efforts to make you and your family happy. Communication is a key component of a marriage that works. Lose the conversation and you lose one another. Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing with appreciation praise and genuine compliments. The secret of having a happy family is to respect, appreciate, and compliment each other for the good qualities you both have. In order to have a good family life you have to keep your wife happy and keep complimenting her and appreciating everything she does to make your family life happy. Never miss an opportunity to give her a genuine compliment about her looks, her work, her efforts to make your home life, a happy life. When she does something good for you , tell her: “ HONEY, today is another one of those days that made me so glad I asked you to marry me”. ‘ I love you honey”. When she finished making your house looking clean and tidy by putting her heart into the heart of your home, recognize that and let her know that you appreciate her love and skills. , tell her: “ you are the reason this place is called a home rather than just a house”. I am proud of you my love”. Always keep complimenting and appreciate her efforts. The more you appreciate her, the more she will try to make you and your family happy. Compliments is the glue in any relationship, it is the key to a happy life. Compliments is like the honey for bees. Your wife is probably the best gift you ever got. With her charm ,warmth , ion, skills and abilities makes you family life a bliss. Always keep telling her that she is beautiful and that you love her! No matter how many times you tell her that she is beautiful and you love her, she will never get tired of it, as long as it is genuine sincere and you mean it. Communication is the key component of a marriage that works especially the genuine complimenting each other for their efforts to keep the family life a

happy family.. Lose the conversation and you lose one another. A happy wife makes a happy family life. Keep your wife happy with genuine compliments. You do not have to memorize cheap compliments. Compliment her good looks , her good taste in dres , her gorgeous body, her warm smile, her good job raising the kids and the occasions for genuine compliment is endless. She cooked a nice dinner, tell her: “ you are a great cook, this meal is delicious”. you get the idea, always keep complimenting and appreciate her. And she will always try to make you and your family happy. Take good care of your wife , she is the cornerstone and the foundation of any happy family. She is the one that will give you kids and she is the one that will raise them right to make you a proud dad. Happy wives will make you happy too. Finally never take her for granted and neglect or abuse your wife verbally or physically. Good men protect and keep their wives happy and never abuse them. Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and pointing out your wife’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievement. You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of your wife’s efforts, talents, good looks and accomplishments but unless you express your thoughts she cannot read your mind. Besides ,She prefers to hear your compliments and good thoughts verbally. . When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliments she knows how you think and she likes hearing your manly voice. So make it a habit to make your thoughts known with nice compliments and she will love you for that!

8)COMPLIMENT YOUR HUSBAND

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If you are married and have a husband , you must understand the immense power you have in the life of your chosen man. Every wife has a tremendous influence on her husband. She has the power to build him up to have a successful career and a harmonious home life or tear him down . That’s why they say that “ behind every successful man there is always a smart woman.” Even president Ronald Reagan attributed his lifelong success as an actor and later as a president, to his wife Nancy. He was always talking fondly about his wife. Smart wives know the power they have and they build up their husbands confidence to be successful both in their careers and their family life. They do that with constantly complimenting their husbands with the right compliments. Men can be strong and tough but under that toughness they are still need the and the compliments of their wives. When they get the right appreciation , and compliments from their wives, they try harder to succeed and make their wives happy and provide for their families. The best compliment any woman can give to her husband is: “ I AM proud of YOU!”. Men need to know that their wives are proud of them. If your husband spend the whole afternoon fixing the fence of your backyard, tell him :” you did a good job honey, I like it. I am proud of you!.” When his woman is behind him he is walking on cloud nine , and he will try harder to please her and have a happy family life. Communication is the key component of a marriage that works, especially when they genuinely complimenting each other for their efforts to keep the family life, a happy family.. Lose the conversation and you lose one another. Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing... the secret of having it all is loving it all, by constantly give nice genuine compliments to each other. Always look for a chance to give your husband genuine compliments when the occasion arises , which is everyday. Compliment his charm, his good looks, his strength, his work, his abilities, voice, and everything you like about him.

Make him feel that he is the best man in the house, and the entire universe and you will be rewarded handsomely in every way. You are the key to his success and to a happy family life. Here are some compliments you can tell your husband, but any genuine compliment at any time is always welcome by the man in your life. ”you are the love of my life”. “you always make me happy”. “ I miss you, when you are not here”. “I am yours for ever.” “ I will always stand by your side” “Your secrets are safe with me.” you are a great man” . “ you are a good father” “you are a good lover”. “ I miss you” “I love you with all my heart”, you are the rock of our family!” “ I am glad I married YOU!” I could list a thousand good compliments here but the point is not to memorize compliments, but to give the right compliment at the right time complimenting his abilities , qualities, actions, etc. and never remind him of any of his faults. Nobody wants to hear about his faults . Nobody is perfect ,we all have some faults and shortcomings. In a nutshell, the secret of complimenting your husband or anyone else for that matter is to praise them about their good qualities , their talents , good looks, good manners, good deeds and accomplishments. A well-placed compliment can keep a positive ball rolling. With a genuine compliment, You can make his entire day Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and pointing out you husband’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievements. You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of your husband’s efforts, but unless you express your thoughts he does not knows what you are thinking. When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliment your husband, he hears you and appreciates it. So make it a habit to make your thoughts known verbally with genuine compliments. He will love you for that and he will be very, very proud of you!

Always try to be a good wife, a good mother with plenty of genuine compliments in your every day family life and your husband will appreciate you and your efforts and he will try harder to please you.

9)COMPLIMENT YOUR GIRLFRIEND

There are many reason why that special girl is your girlfriend. You chose her to be your girlfriend for her good looks, her beauty, her Personality, Her Flexibility her intelligence, her talents , femininity, and a myriad other reasons. What ever the reason was that you chose her ,now she is your girlfriend .Make sure your respect, appreciate and compliment her every chance you get so that you make your time together memorable and fun filled. Always to live in the moment and focus on smiling, and putting a smile on her face, when you’re together. Concentrate on your relationship with her and compliment her every chance you get. When she spends hours choosing a dress, putting on make up and doing their hair for that date with you, she’s done all this for you. so don’t forget to show your appreciation with an honest compliment when she comes to your date. Tell her “ you look gorgeous, I am proud of you! You have a good taste! You look amazing! When you’re with her, you focus on having as much fun as you can and keep complimenting her every chance you get with a genuine compliments and a warm smile while looking in her eyes. Compliments is the glue to any relationship, like the honey to the bees. Never over do it, but be truthful and genuine when you complimenting her. There are millions of compliments you can compliment her but the idea is not to have a list of compliments and keep throwing compliments at her, that would be cheap and insincere. Just be charming and genuine . You don’t want to just say a compliment — you have to mean it. Girls have an uncanny knack for telling when a guy is being real and when he is not. just be authentic and genuine and she will love you for that.. Complement her, for hair, eyes, smile, shoes, dresses, talents, and achievements. Make her feel like she is the luckiest girl in the world! When dancing together whisper in her ear : “ god made you perfect for my

arms, you gorgeous girl! Make the compliments fit the occasion. One last thing to have in mind. Never ever talk about your previous relationships and never compare her with other girls. You focus your attention on her and make her feel SPECIAL, after all she is the special girl in your life and who knows she might be your wife someday... Here are some compliments you can give your girlfriend at the right time.: “ you are special“” you are my soul mate,” “ You make me believe in soul mates.”” You give meaning to my life. “” “I can’t imagine my life without you in it. “ I love you lucky girl” “ you are amazing”, “you are beautiful”” you have a good taste” “you look great in that dress,”” you are not only beautiful but you are smart too !”” I am proud of you”” you have beautiful eyes,” “ you look gorgeous in that dress...”.... “How do you look so beautiful all the time?

10)COMPLIMENT YOUR BOYFRIEND

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There are many reasons why you chose that special boyfriend of yours. Perhaps, it is his good looks, his charm, his talents, his accomplishments , the way he treats you or any other of the myriad reasons. You chose him and he chose you and you are happy to be together. He loves to be with you and treats you like his queen. You enjoy his company and you feel good when you are around him. He is special to you for his everything and you appreciate his company , his good looks, and everything he has to offer to make you both happy when you are together. You laugh at his jokes and you appreciate his compliments . Life is a two way street and make sure you appreciate, praise and compliment everything you like about him. Everybody likes to be praised , complimented , appreciated for his efforts . Make sure to give him genuine compliments at the right time, and he will love you for it. Compliments is the glue for any relationship, like the honey is to the bees. The best compliment you can give your boyfriend is: “ I am proud of you”. “ you are the best thing that happen to me, I love you man”. “I love you the way you are”. I love the way you look at me”. “you are my everything”, “ I am happy the way you love me”, “ I am happy whenever I am with you!”’ I miss you when we are to together”. There are millions of compliments you can compliment him but the idea is not to have a list of compliments and keep throwing compliments at him. Just be sincere, charming and genuine . You don’t want to just say a compliment — you have to mean it. The more you appreciate him the way he treats you, the more he will try to please you and have fun together. A good boyfriend in your life is a gift and a blessing. Make sure to keep him happy and who knows he might end up to be your soul mate and your partner for life with marriage and a future happy family together!

11)COMPLIMENT YOUR KIDS AND TEACH THEM TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT OTHERS

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If you are lucky to have a happy family blessed with kids you have an enormous responsibility to raise those kids right. Children need not only food and material stuff but they also need nurturing and psychological . The best way to nurture your kids is to start giving them encouraging compliments from the time they are born. The right compliments at the right time, especially by their parents, do wonders to the kids self worth and self confidence. Children that are loved, valued, accepted and nurtured by their parents grow up to be self-confident and better weather the challenges of life . Compliments to kids is like the honey to the bees. Compliments motivate them to be better, to do better , to obey and behave better, to accomplish their goals, to please their parents. Kids always try to make their parents proud of them and generous compliments is the reward they are looking for. Research shows that the most motivating compliments for children are those that praise hard work, their good behavior, their looks, their dedication and perseverance, their talents, traits and abilities. Make sure to tell them how beautiful and handsome they look, how strong they are, how good they are in school, how well they behave, how proud your are for them and above all that you love them . Children will try to live up to what they feel we believe them to be. Kids want to make their parents proud and by complimenting them, they will try to be better. Always be generous with your compliments for your children and teach them by example how to appreciate others and be generous with their compliments to others too. Compliments is the glue to any human relationship. The sooner they learn how to appreciate , praise and compliment others the better relationships they will have in life! Teach them by example to love, praise and compliment their siblings, their friends and relatives. Compliments is the bond for good long lasting relationships and the sooner they start appreciating others the better relationships they will have in life. Feeling gratitude isn't born in us - it's something we are taught, and in turn, we

teach our children. Appreciate and value your kids. Teach your kids by example to respect, compliment and appreciate others. Teach them to respect and compliment their siblings, and everybody else. Knowing how to compliment and what to say in every occasion make them self-confident and they will have better relationships in their life. Keep complimenting and appreciate your kids talents, accomplishments and efforts even when the result is not the best. That will motivate and encourage them to do better. Love your kids unconditional and tell them that you will always be there for them. Even if they do not obey or have a rebellious behavior , keep complimenting their good qualities and They will eventually come around . In one of her lectures, the famous psychologist Dr. Joyce Brothers was telling her audience how new parents are excited when they first get their new babies and spend hours and a lot of money to prepare the baby’s rooms. But, the same parents do not have any time to compliment and provide psychological to their teenage kids when they need them the most. Some of the parents even kick their unruly kids out of their house as punishment , with the so called “tough love ‘, with the kids ending up in the streets as homeless kids, used and abused by many. Her advise was to love their kids unconditionally and be their for them, to compliment and take care of them in good times and in bad situation especially in their teen years. It is my hope than no parent will ever use that cheap and illogical excuse of the so called “TOUGH LOVE ’ to kick any kid out of their homes, no matter how bad they behave. Ignore their bad behavior and keep complimenting, appreciating and praising their good qualities and eventually they will come around and be good kids. A child who feels valued and accepted by their parents can change the world. A child who feels like their parents think that they are good and wonderful can better weather the challenges life sends their way. Every body has good qualities and faults. The secret is to praise the good qualities and ignore the faults.

Compliment their good character, obedience, respect, talents, good work, their efforts, their contribution to the family, or just simply for being part of the family. Everyone has bad days and good days sometimes. Make sure to welcome your children with open arms when they come home. Encourage them and nurture them when they walk in the door. Make your home a place where they can come to get the they need , to be confident and have self esteem. Give them plenty of genuine compliments , every day. Tell them you are blessed to have them. Tell them that you love them , over and over again. Your kids is a gift from god and You never know how long they will be around. Nobody knows how long they will be around , no matter if they are one or a hundred and one. Life is gift and everyone should cherish the time he has on this earth. Cherish the time you have with your kids and other loved ones. Appreciate , value , praise and compliment while they are with you before it is too late. Give them generously genuine compliments, that you love them and appreciate every minute they spend with you! “Every time I see you, I’m thankful that you are my son!”” I am so proud of you! “ ““Your willingness to help out makes me happy! You are a good son” “you did a good job” “ you are a wonderful girl”, “you are so beautiful, you like a princess”, you are a handsome boy, you look like your daddy” “ I love you”, I am so happy you are my daughter”. ‘ you are the joy of my life”. Never miss an opportunity to praise and compliment your kids . You are the source of their self esteem and psychological . Kids need to understand that they are valued simply because they are the kids of yours. Your kids is the best gift from god. You never know how long your kids will be around for you to cherish and enjoy. You spend a lot of time and money raising your kids and it is the best investment of your life , better than any other material investment. Make sure they are in good hands and have a good self esteem with your generous genuine compliments. Their success or failure

in life might depend on your nurturing and the way you raised them. Kids raised with strong healthy family principles and generous appreciation and compliments grow up to be self confident and they do very well in life. Make your home a place where they can come at any time to get the they need , to be confident and have a good self esteem. Even if your kids have special needs or disabilities make sure to give them plenty of encouragement and compliments for their good qualities and abilities. Tell them that nobody is perfect and praise their abilities and talents. With praise and compliments they will do well in their life despite their special needs or disabilities. I saw a man on television, with no arms or legs and he was very successful in life traveling the world giving inspirational lectures. His name was Nicolas James from Australia who was born without arms or legs ,but he has a successful career traveling all over the world. There are many other stories about people who were born with disabilities or fell victim to circumstances or faced an accident but that didn’t stop them from becoming successful and famous, making a mark in their respective fields and motivating people around the world. Their stories are touching, inspiring and encouraging . People like Stevie Wonder, Andrea Bocelli, Ray Charles, Stephen Hawkins, even the president of the united states Franklin D. Roosevelt and many, many others. So even if your child has special need or disabilities, keep value, appreciating and complimenting his abilities and talents and only god knows what will happen to his life. But with your encouragement and compliments they will have a better future than without your praising and compliments.

12)COMPLIMENT YOUR PARENTS FOR A JOB WELL DONE, RAISING GOOD KIDS: YOU AND YOUR SIBLINGS

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Most of the parents are good parents and they do an excellent job in raising their kids with love and affection. They love their kids and put long hours and huge amounts of money to give their kid whatever they need to succeed in life. Of course there are always exceptions to this rule but exceptions are just exceptions. Usually The parents do whatever they do, because they feel that it is their duty to help their kids to succeed in life and they most likely were treated the same way by their parents . So they keep the tradition alive for the sake of their kids and the future generations. All the parents want and expect, is respect , obedience and recognition from their kids for all their efforts and hard work . Most of the kids recognize, compliment and praise their parents efforts and many times return the favor, by treating their parents with loving care in their golden years when they need help and themselves. That’s great and it is greatly appreciated by the elderly parents, with a satisfactory feeling that they did a great job in raising good kids.

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pixabay: Old Couple. Free for commercial use No attribution required High quality images. I am sure many children appreciate and recognize the efforts and hard work of their parents, but sometimes they fail to verbalize their thought’s to praise and compliment their parents. The parents cannot read their kids thoughts but they greatly appreciate any compliments and praise coming from their kids with kind words of appreciation.

Make it a habit to express and verbalize your appreciation by complimenting and praising their efforts, sacrifices and good work in raising you right, by giving them sincere, genuine ,compliments every time you have the chance. Your parents is a precious gift from god and you never know how long they will be around. Tell them how you feel about them before it is too late. Compliment them by thanking them for everything they do for you. “Thanks dad for your good advice”. “thanks mom, your cooking is the best”.” you are a great dad”, “you are the best mom , I love you so much”,” I love how you talk to my kids” I love you for helping me with your grandkids” “There should be more moms like you in the world!” “dad you are the best dad that many kids wish they had, I am glad you are my dad”. “I love you dad”, I love you mom”. Compliment and thank them about everything and anything at the right time and they will appreciate it very much. You will make their days brighter by verbalizing the good thoughts you have for them. Be generous with your compliments and they will be very proud of you. Compliments are little treasures for parents, when it comes from their kids. Praising and acknowledging your parents, is one of the best things you can do, to have a positive impact on your parents. The people that have done so much for you , deserve the best compliments from their kids.. There is more hunger for love, praise and appreciation by your aging parents, than for food”. parents want to know that their kids love them and appreciate them for all that hard work over the years to raise their kids. Go ahead make their day , a happy day ,with generous compliments and appreciation for their hard work and sacrifices over the years.

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13)COMPLIMENT AND CELEBRATE YOUR SIBLINGS

If you are lucky enough to have siblings, brothers and sisters , you are truly blessed to have them around in good times and in times of need. If you are the parents of a few kids, you are indeed blessed to have them in your life. You have a tremendous responsibility to raise those kids the right way. It is the parent’s responsibility to raise their kids in a way that eliminates any sibling rivalry. The best way to do that is to treat all your kids the same way, love them and treat them all the same way. No preferences and no special treatments for one kid over another. Teach them to love and compliment each other from an early age. Tell them the Aesop’s fable of the farmer with the three sons and the bundle of sticks, to emphasize that unity is the strength in any family. By teaching your kids to love and complimenting each other from an early age, they will grow up to have harmonious relationships among your kids. Love and compliments is the glue that keep the siblings united in a good brotherly relationship. If you are a member of a big family with brothers and sisters , consider yourself as a very lucky person. You have brothers and sisters to play with them right in your own home. No need to go out and play with others no matter if rains or shine. When you are with your family on vacation, your brothers and sisters are there to keep you company and have fun filled memorable times. Always that friends come and go in your life, but your siblings will always be your siblings, they will be there in good times and in bad times. When you all grow up and have families and kids of your own, you will have family reunions to with nostalgia your early years growing up in your parents home, the games you were playing, the fun you all had in your vacations and other memorable memories. Your kids will play with your siblings kids and they will carry on the traditions of your family. For all these reasons it is imperative that you appreciate, praise, compliment and celebrate your siblings everyday of your lives. From an early age start praise appreciate and compliment your siblings good looks, good behavior , talents and achievements. Love and Compliments is the glue that will keep the relationship with your

siblings strong and amicable. Always the farmer with the three sons in the Aesop’s fable with the sticks. The farmer had three sons that they were constantly fighting with each other and he decided to teach them a lesson about the strength of unity . He gave each of his son one stick and asked them to break that stick. They easily broke the single stick. Then he give them three sticks and asked them to break the sticks. None of his sons could break the three sticks. The farmer told that it is the same with them. If they are fighting among themselves their enemies can easily defeat them one at a time , but their enemies cannot defeat them if they are united and the three stick together. And that’s where the phrase “ united we stand and divided we fall”, came from. So it is good to that and teach your kids about the power of unity. So it is good to that and appreciate the value of your siblings. Genuine appreciation , praise , v and complementing your sibling will keep your relationships strong , loving and friendly. Always to appreciate value and compliment the good looks, good deeds, talents and accomplishments of your siblings. That is the way to have strong, loving and friendly relationships. Always tell them that you are proud of them, that you are glad they are your siblings, that they are your best friends, that you appreciate all their help and over the years. There is even a national siblings day on April 10, a good reason to celebrate it with all your siblings and catch up with all those memorable moments while growing up. Here are some quotes about siblings. Having lots of siblings is like having built-in best friends. When you have a lot of siblings, you always do something to feel special. A sister is someone perfect person who listens when you talk, laughs when you laugh, and holds your hand when you cry. Brothers are like streetlights along the road, they don’t make distance any shorter but they light up the path and make the walk worthwhile.

Being brother & sister means being there for each other.

14)COMPLIMENT YOUR FRIENDS

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Good friends are there for you for the good times and the bad times. Some people have friends for ever and some friends come and go in our lives. If you are lucky enough to have good friends you are indeed blessed with good luck. Friendship is one of the most beautiful features of life that are given for free. True friends keep up with your best times and rough moments. They always remind you of your worth as a person, with honesty , appreciation and love.. They laugh at your jokes and wipe your tears without hesitation. Friends make life on earth easier and better. And even if you are miles away, true friendship lasts for ever. Distance does not matter to people who value and appreciate each other .Having great friends to share your life with, is the best gift like no other, After all, friends are the family you choose to have besides your biological family. To strengthen your friendship, you need to appreciate and value their friendship with genuine compliments. Always seek the opportunity to Tell them how much they mean to you and make them smile with genuine compliments that you appreciate and value their friendship.

“You're a gift to be around you.”” You're a smart guy“ “. You are awesome!”” you are my best friend”. “You have good manners.”” I like your style.”” You have the best laugh.”” “ I appreciate you”’ I 'm grateful for your help“. “You light up the room“.” You should be proud of yourself.” You're very helpful , thank you” “That color is perfect on you.”” Hanging out with you is always a blast.” “ You always know—and say—exactly what I need to hear when I need to hear it.” You help me feel more joy in life.” “You may dance like no one's watching, but everyone's watching because you're an amazing dancer!” “You're a wonderful friend“” “you tell funny jokes my friend,” you are a funny man” “You're an awesome friend.”” you are my best friend” “ I wish you were my brother” “you are the best sister I never had” “you are the brother I never had”

The idea is not to memorize a lot of compliments and start blurting them out at any time. True genuine compliments, value, appreciate , praise the actions and talents of your friends when the occasion arise. So, have your eyes and ears open to praise your friends when they do something that deserves a nice , sincere praise, the so called compliment. That ‘s it. True friends’ company will raise your spirits and feel happy to be around them. But if you have some of the so called friends that drag you and your feelings down and cause troubles in your life, perhaps you should consider finding better friends. Maybe they are not good friends and perhaps you made a bad choice of people as your friends. As the saying goes, “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”, or birds of a feather go together”. Sometimes, it is better not to have any friends, than having bad friends causing you grief and trouble in your life! Surround yourself only with people who are going to take you higher. People that they have your best interest in mind and they are happy to see you happy and successful in life. Choose your friends carefully and if you are lucky enough to have good loyal friends, keep them for ever. Good friends will always have a good influence on your life and they will be there for you in good times and in bad times. Make sure you value and thank your true good friends for being there for you when you need them and make sure you are there for them when they need YOU!

15)COMPLIMENT YOUR RELATIVES

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Relatives are all those people that are related to you by family ties, your uncles and aunts , cousins , nieces, nephews, grand parents and great grand parents and their kids. You all have the same so called genes that makes all of you unique, sharing so many traits, physical appearances and genetics. You probably have big family gatherings every so often to celebrate your family ties and keep the relationships alive.

During these gatherings , good food , good wine, family songs and traditional dances make the occasion a memorable one. They treat their relatives with respect and appreciate their talents and accomplishments. When you are present in these gatherings, keep your eyes and ears open and offer your relatives genuine sincere compliments about their looks, talents and achievements. Give sincere compliments for the good food and those that prepare it.” Grandma your roast beef is the best” ‘grand pa, your jokes are hilarious”. cousin john you are so smart, I always learn something new from you” “Cousin Julia, you are so beautiful,” uncle john, you have the best car”. “ aunt betty your new baby is so cute, she looks like you!” “aunt Judith you tell the best jokes”. You get the idea , you observe and compliment your relatives for whatever good qualities they possess. that’s it. Those little compliments are appreciated and make a good impression on your relatives and they will you fondly. Keep those relationships alive all year long with telephone calls and good wishes for their special occasions, birthdays , weddings baptisms, showers and other occasions . You reinforce their value , while strengthening your relationship. Compliments make your relatives feel good and make them look forward to see you again.. Compliment generously but not excessively; keep it real. Compliments and good wishes is the bond that keeps the relationships alive. It is like the honey for the bees.

16)COMPLIMENT YOUR COWORKERS If you have a job and you work with other people, you probably spend more time with your co-workers than your own family. So it is very important to have good working relationships with your co-workers. Appreciating and complimenting your co-workers is one way to create a pleasant working atmosphere in your working place. Have your eyes and ears open and give genuine sincere compliments to your co-workers. Sincere compliments is the glue that creates good relationships especially in the working place where you spend so much time with your coworkers. Here are some of the many compliments you can give your co-workers: “ Sara, you are doing a good job” , “thank you Peter for helping me out with that project”. “ I really enjoy working with you Monika”. “ you are awesome Pat”, “you look great Julie” “ you have a good taste for color”,” you are a good team worker Tom”. I appreciate all your help, I learned a lot from you!” Again , the idea is to give sincere compliments to your co-workers when they deserve it. By complimenting each other you create a friendly working environment for the good of the company and your relationship with your coworkers.

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Use compliments as a tool in the workplace. Regularly complimenting your co-workers or employees can actually boost their performance. Compliments expressing well-deserved performance-related recognition , improves professional output. To do this as effectively as possible, "the compliment should be genuine and deserved, as well as performancespecific. For example, after a coworker gives a powerful presentation, compliment his delivery of presentation. “That presentation was the best, well done john”. The compliment will boost his morale and self confidence He will

feel valued and appreciated for his good delivery and that’s the purpose of a genuine compliment. Regularly complimenting your co-workers or employees boosts the morale and their performance: to value, appreciate and praise their performance and positive contribution to make the work place a friendly and productive place for everybody. Compliments and appreciation is the best way to have a friendly and productive working place for the benefit of all.

17)COMPLIMENT YOUR NEIGHBORS

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Unless you live in a deserted island or far away in a cave, you have neighbors, people that live next to your house in your neighborhood . These people are people like you and me minding their own business in their own homes. You probably see them every day coming and going from their homes or taking care of their homes and gardens. If you live on a high rise apartment building you see your neighbors coming and going from their apartments in the corridors or elevators. No matter where you live, whether you live in a house in a nice neighborhood or in an apartment building it is essential to have courteous interactions with your neighbors. By having your eyes and ears open and complimenting your neighbors when the occasion arise, it is the best way to get to know your neighbors and have good friendly relationships with them.. If you live for a long time in a neighborhood you will be seeing your neighbors often coming and going from their home. It is nice to greet your neighbors when you see them. A simple hi or good morning is a good start. Eventually you add a nice compliment for their good looks , talents, positions or behavior. “Your dog is so cute, what’s his name?” “your baby is cute” “You have a nice garden”. “nice car” “you have beautiful hair” “Your kids are very polite, you did a good job raising them”. Nice compliments is the key for good relationships with your neighbors. You never know when you will need their help. Neighbors are the first people you see every day and they are closer than your relatives or friends that live far away from you.

It is essential to have good friendly relationships with your neighbors just in case someday you might need them. Of course it is a two way street and you never know when they will need your help .

Always appreciate, value and genuinely compliment your neighbors to have good friendly relationships with them. If they ever need your help , be ready to help them, as much as you can and I am sure they will be there for you when you need them. That’s what makes good neighbors, to help each other in time of need.

18)COMPLIMENT STRANGERS WHEN THE OCCASION ARISES There is a saying “ that a stranger is a friend you haven’t met yet.” That is very true and many strangers became long time friends . A simple comment, appreciation or a positive compliment was the beginning of long lasting friendship. Compliments do have that positive effect on people. So the next time you see a stranger that deserves a praise for a job well done , a good deed or good behavior give the stranger a well deserved genuine compliment. “ thank you for your help”. ’ that’s a nice hat” , “ nice outfit” “that’s a good job” “Your dog is cute” "You have such a cheerful voice! I bet you make a lot of sales,". The girl at the grocery store serving you with a smile, tell her:” you have a nice smile”, keep smiling, “ “you do a good job”.

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Learning how to compliment strangers is very important if you are looking to expand your social network, as it can open up doors for new friendships. Always keep your eyes and ears open to offer genuine well deserved compliments to all the people including strangers. Everybody appreciates an honest and sincere compliment . Who knows, maybe that stranger will end up being your loyal friend for life ! just that every good friend was once a stranger!

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19)SCHOOLS SHOULD TEACH KIDS HOW TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT OTHERS BY PRACTICING THE GOLDEN RULE

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Public schools is the foundation for the education of millions of children in every corner of the earth. They teach the kids how to read and write, about math, sciences and technology and a lot of other subjects. Many of those kids will have successful careers. Many of them will be rich and famous, others will straggle in life to make ends meet. Some of those kids will be the politicians of the future that will rule their countries and play important roles in governing their countries,. As we see the schools play an important role in shaping people’s lives around the globe. The most important role of every school and every teacher is to teach kids how to be good citizens, to appreciate , value , praise and respect their fellow man. Unfortunately many schools emphasize academic excellence and fail to teach their students fundamental human and ethical principles. As a result of that many students do not respect their fellow students and they use bullying tactics to make the lives of some students miserable. There were always bullies in schools that they were terrorize other students, but with the advent of internet things got worse. Now they can terrorize people even in their own homes through social media over the internet. Here are some shocking statistics for the United States alone.

We often read in the papers how long lasting bullying end up in violence with tragic results. Kids or adults are victimized or killed in the hands of their abs, or victims of bullying taking matters in their own hands killing their bullies and other by-standers. The situation is getting out of control and parents, schools and society in general , they have to do the right thing and end this vicious cycle of bullying and abuse. The only way to stop bullying and put an end to this emotional and physical abuse with the tragic consequences is to teach the kids from an early age “the golden rule”: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU”. Parents, schools and society in general should teach kids how to become the good citizens of the future by trying to do good deeds for others and avoid any actions that hurt others feelings and safety. Teach the kids how to appreciate others, how to praise others, how to genuinely complement others about their look, talents, accomplishments and good deeds and keep their mouths shut if they have nothing nice to say. The schools should have classes specifically to teach and practice the art of complimenting others. Learning from an early age, how to properly complimenting others by appreciating and praising others and treating others the way they want to be treated is the only way to stop bullying. Teach Students to Give and Receive Compliments in schools classes . There are many ways to teach the students by example in school. But the best way is divide the students in small groups and start complimenting the person sitting next to them. Divide the classrooms in small groups of students, around 10-15 in each group and teach the students how to appreciate others by giving them sincere compliments. Each student should be asked to turn to his right and give a genuine compliment to the student sitting on his right side until all the students finish complimenting the student on their right. Then ask the

students to turn to their left and complement the student sitting on their left side until all students finish complimenting the students sitting next to them. After they finish complimenting each other, you ask every second student to go to the next group, and every second student from the next group to come to the first group and start the process of complimenting again the student sitting next to them. Keep doing this until the hour of compliments is up. You do this every day so that the students learn how to compliment each other. Students practice gratitude, appreciation and praise through the skill of giving and receiving compliments. In the beginning the students might be uncomfortable and embarrassed of giving and receiving compliments , but with practice they will become more comfortable with giving and receiving compliments. Remind students to focus their compliments on what others accomplished , how they help others, their talents , their good looks and other things such as what they wear. Encourage students to have their eyes and ears open to genuinely complimenting, appreciating and praising others in their daily lives both in school and outside the school. By learning to give genuine compliments and treat each other with respect , it will greatly reduce the incidence of bulling in schools. That is exactly the purpose of teaching students the art of complimenting each other , and follow the principle of the “GOLDEN RULE”: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU”. Praise and compliment others instead of bullying. By taking time to teach students the art of compliments, the classroom culture and climate will be positively change for the better and the bullying will be greatly reduced and even eliminated. I wrote a short poem that can be used to teach the kids from an early age the value of respecting and treating others. like they want others to treat them:

The golden rule : (school poem against bullying) Boys and girls you are all smart Stop bullying before it starts Always the “ golden rule” TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU” Be kind and respect each other is the schools’ policy and rule Report anyone that starts bullying and breaks this rule ... Author : S.ELIA Permission is granted to any school or organization to use this poem in their classrooms. When parents, schools and society in general start teaching and implementing the golden rule in everybody’s daily life, the bullying will stop and the school place and everywhere else will be a better place to live. In reality complimenting others with genuine compliments is the implementation of the “golden rule”: you treat others with respect with nice compliments as you want them to treat you.

20)COMPLIMENTING IS THE OPPOSITE OF BULLYING

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Compliments have the opposite effect of bullying. With compliments people feel good about themselves and has a positive effect on their feelings. Any form of compliment , praise and appreciation make the receiving person feel good about themselves On the contrary verbal bullying hurt people’s feeling and make them feel bad. Bullying entails three key elements: an intent to harm, a power imbalance, and repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior. Physical bullying includes hitting, punching, kicking, spitting, tripping, slamming a child into a locker, and a range of other behaviors that involve physical aggression This type of bullying is worse than verbal bullying and actually is a criminal offence and it should be reported to the police. Cyber bullying is the bullying over the internet and it is as bad or even worse than the verbal and physical bullying. With bullying people try to put their victim down and hurt their feelings. With genuine compliments people try to make others feel good about themselves. If you have to choose between bullying and compliments I hope that you always choose the compliments. Compliments not only make others feel good but you feel good too! Always, the golden rule: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU”. I do not think that anyone in his right mind wants to be bullied. So if you do not want to be bullied, DO NOT BULLY ANY BODY ELSE.

You like to receive Nice compliments, give nice compliments to others too. STOP BULLYING: GIVE NICE GENUINE SINCERE COMPLIMENTS INSTEAD. YOU WILL FEEL A LOT BETTER THAN WHEN BULLYING!

21)LEARN TO APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING. It is a fact that people feel good when they receive a well deserved genuine compliment from others. But do you know that even animals and plants appreciate and thrive on nice compliments? Take for example your dog. You look him in the eyes and with a calm voice tell him “ you are a good dog’ or “you are a beautiful dog“.

The dog will look you in the eyes and literally smile at you while wagging his tail. It is the dog’s way of thanking you for the nice compliment. You touch gently your cat’s back and tell her “ you are a beautiful cat” or “ you are a good cat”. your cat will close her eyes and start purring . It is the cat’s way of acknowledging your compliment and thanking you for the compliment. Other animals have different ways of acknowledging And thanking their owners for nice compliments. Even plants appreciate and thank people for genuine praising compliments. In a study performed by the Royal Horticultural Society, researchers discovered that talking to your plants really can help them grow faster. They also found that plants grow faster to the sound of a female voice than to the sound of a male voice.

As you can see, nice compliments are appreciated and has a positive effect not only on humans , but have a positive effect even on animals and plants! There is also an old proverb which says that : “if you do not compliment your house with nice words it might fall down and kill you .” it is a way to say that you should appreciate and take good care of what you have. Appreciate and verbally express your thoughts in a positive way about everyone and everything. It seems that humans , animals, plants and even structures thrive on good genuine compliments. So make it a habit , to appreciate and praise everyone and everything with nice positive compliments and it will have a positive effect on you too. Compliments is the key to have a positive and rewarding effect on your life and others. And if you have nothing nice to say about anyone or anything, keep your mouth shut to keep you out of trouble.

22)FINALLY IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO COMPLIMENT YOURSELF

You know how good you feel when someone else gives you a genuine compliment .You feel like you walk on cloud nine when people appreciate your efforts, your good looks , and your accomplishments. Compliments boost your self esteem and you feel wonderful. But You too can compliment yourself and feel good. Instead of waiting for other people to notice your good qualities , good deeds, talents and accomplishments, you can do that for yourself. Your priority in life is to keep yourself both mentally and physically in good shape by eating the right foods, exercising, and complimenting yourself for your good qualities. There are many reasons why you should complimenting yourself. You have only oneself and you know yourself better than anybody else. You know your strengths and your weaknesses. You know that you are not perfect but nobody else is perfect. Perhaps you have some faults like anybody else, but so what? You know that you are special, and you should be the best friend to yourself. You know your talents, your accomplishments, and you strive to be the best in anything you try to do. Your job is to praise and compliment yourself for your good qualities and forget about your faults . You had a new haircut that you like; look into the mirror and say to yourself : ’that’s a nice haircut , makes me look amazing”. You spend half an hour getting dressed in that beautiful red dress you have ; look into the mirror, and say :“ I look gorgeous in this beautiful dress’. I am sure others will compliment you for that beautiful dress, but the important thing is that you complimented yourself first , and you already feel good about yourself . You help a child cross the street, compliment yourself for you good deed; “ you are a good person Janet, you did a good deed.” You manage to save enough money to buy your first car. Compliment yourself for that.: ‘ good job Janet, you deserve your new car”. you buy a pair of new shoes, say to yourself “ nice shoes they look good on me”. It is really easy to compliment yourself everyday. You will find yourself cheerful and confident in a few days. You know that you are special and you deserve the best in life. So recognize that, appreciate and value yourself for all those good qualities you have. It is nice when it comes from others , but you

should be the first to do that , because you know yourself better than anybody else. The compliments should be the best and the best should come from you. Give yourself credit for how well you have handled your life and raised yourself from every fall. Feel proud about your accomplishments in life. That s the best you can do for you. Love yourself, praise yourself, appreciate everything you have and value yourself the good person you are. Compliment and appreciate others as well for their good qualities, and when you do both for you and others you will feel wonderful. Always verbalize your good thoughts about you and others. that’s the only way to do it . Be proud of your family and verbalize that. “I have the best family”. my father is the best dad in the whole world”. “my mother’s cooking is the best”. “my brother is the best brother, he is always on my side”. “ my wife is wonderful, I feel so lucky to have her” . be proud of your genes and traditions. That is what make you so special. Reaffirm that every time you have the chance. Famous and successful people do that everyday. It actually works! Oprah Winfrey was telling her audience that she was doing just that every day, by looking into the mirror and complimenting herself before each of her shows. “ go girl, you are the best!” Here are some quotes of hers: “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” ― Oprah Winfrey “Only make decisions that your self-image, self-esteem, and self-worth.” ― Oprah Winfrey World Athletes do it all the time by raising their hand and shouting loud, YESSSSSS after each victory .It is a way of complimenting themselves for a job well done! Many famous and successful people itted that they compliment themselves everyday. So make it a habit to compliment yourself for everything you have and you accomplish. When you get a promotion at work, tell yourself : “ good job Pete , you deserve it”. “You are the best”. Buy that expensive suit you like, and when you put it on, look into the mirror, smile and tell yourself “. you look

great, you deserve the best .’ do not wait for others to compliment you. Feel your true worth and be the first to compliment you. You will feel wonderful! Look into the mirror and praise all those wonderful qualities you. You might not be perfect ,and nobody is perfect, but you are unique , one of a kind with many wonderful traits qualities and features. Celebrate whatever you have, be proud of what you have. It is yours and yours alone , to celebrate and be proud of what you have! Make it a habit to compliment your good looks, your good deeds, your talents and accomplishments every day . It will make wonders to your self esteem and self confidence. You feel good when others recognize and appreciate your good qualities but It is not necessary to wait for other people to appreciate and praise you, you can do it yourself more often. Never ever sell yourself short because. “When you undervalue yourself, the world will undervalue you too.” if you have no respect for yourself it shows, and they will not respect too. Always , that you are special and you deserve the best! You love yourself more than anybody else and you know that you are your best friend. Friends come and go but you are always there for you. You know what you are worth and how you achieve everything you have. You know how you manage to overcome the difficulties in life and all your good qualities, good deeds and talents. So keep complimenting and be proud of yourself for that every day and every chance you get. It is the least you can do for you to make you feel wonderful inside and outside.

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23)CONCLUSION In conclusion, it is very important to that you should take an active interest in genuinely, appreciating, praising and positively complimenting other people about their good looks, good deeds, good behavior, talents and accomplishments. By doing so you make other people feel good about themselves but you also feel good about yourself by knowing that you contributed in the happiness of others. Give freely genuine sincere compliments to everyone that deserves to be praised for what they have or do, without any expectations of any reward. You never know what powerful positive effects your compliments will have on other’s peoples lives, but definitely it will make their day more pleasant. You reinforce their value in the world, while strengthening your relationship. Compliments make other people feel good and make others want to be around you. Many long lasting friendships and relationships started with a simple sincere praising compliment. Compliments is the glue, the key to every relationship. It is like the honey to the bees. The whole world would be a better place if people would just stop and take time to appreciate one another so people would focus on the positive by practicing the “ golden rule”: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU”. The effects of compliments is huge. A kind, genuine, thoughtful compliment is like a form of magic—it has the power to turn someone’s day around and make them feel proud of themselves, appreciated and happy. Compliments can be a useful tool to nurture and enhance relationships for life. Compliments create positive energy and benefits both the giver as well as the recipient. A Thoughtful compliment will strengthen your relationships, boost happiness and definitely bring a smile to someone's face. Make it a habit to give generous genuine compliments to others and with daily practice you get better . Practice makes you perfect as they say. Learn how to give generously , sincere compliments and your social, professional and personal life will improve tremendously. Every body

appreciates a genuine compliment. Learn how to accept graciously compliments by saying thank you acknowledging the compliment with a smile. Above all appreciate and praise yourself for your good qualities, talents good deeds, and accomplishments. You know that you are special, and you deserve sincere compliments from others and you. The most important thing to is that you should take an active interest in genuinely appreciating and complimenting other people. Above all compliment yourself verbally, for your good qualities, good looks, good deeds and achievements! You deserve it and you know it, so verbalize it. If everyone starts to appreciate, praise and compliment each other with genuine sincere compliments, the world will be a better place for everybody and That is the purpose of this book ! Start genuinely praising and complimenting yourself and others and you will have a good life! 24) EPILOGUE As we can see the humans have the greatest weapon of all. Their tongue with the spoken word , which they can use for the good of humanity and for the bad which it can destroy humanity. Words are more powerful than any weapon .The human tongue is like a double edge sword that can do both good with praise and compliments and can do great harm with contempt, vulgarity and bullying. The proper use of the spoken word with praise, encouragement and compliments can uplift the human spirit and make the world a better place to live. On the other hand bullying, contempt and vulgarity can make the world a hell on earth. Compliments is your expression of appreciating, praising, approving and pointing out other people’s talents, good looks, good manners, good deeds, good behavior and achievements. You might have the best thoughts and appreciation of others but unless you

express your thoughts, nobody knows what you are thinking. When you express your thoughts, iration, appreciation and compliment, everybody hears you and appreciate it. So make it a habit to make your good thoughts known with compliments. Compliments encourage A strong positive self image which is the best preparation for success in life. Never miss the opportunity to give a genuine compliment to anybody that deserves to be complimented on his or her good looks, good deed, talents and anything else that deserves a good compliment Learn to appreciate, encourage and compliment others to make their lives happier and in the process you will have a better life and better relationships in your life. Compliments is the glue for all human interactions for better relationships, like the honey is for the bees.

25)A SHORT LIST OF COMMON COMPLIMENTS YOU CAN USE AT THE APPROPRIATE TIME This list is just for reference only. When you want to give compliments you have to have your eyes and ears open and give genuine compliments appreciating and praising the talents, deeds and good qualities of others. Your compliments have to be genuine and you mean what you say, otherwise the compliments look cheap and insincere . People have an uncanny knack for telling when the compliment is sincere or not. If you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut!

26)HERE IS THE LIST OF COMPLIMENTS

You are cute You are beautiful You are good looking You are smart and beautiful You have impeccable manners. ... You are the most perfect you there is. ... Your perspective is refreshing. ... You should be proud of yourself. ... You're more helpful than you realize. ... You've got all the right moves! ... Your kindness is sweet...

You look great today. ... I always learn so much from you. ... You're not like everyone else. Your hair looks amazing. ... Nobody makes me happier than you. ... You have such good taste. ... You are my everything. ... I think you are perfect just the way you are.

You’ve got such nice eyes/lips/teeth/hair. Your hair looks amazing. How did I get so lucky to have you in my life You’re sexy. I like your style. You look great today, Nobody makes me happier than you. You have such a positive charisma. You always make me feel so comfortable . You’re good at what you do. I can see so much warmth in your eyes.

I love your smile.

. You are so smart.. I could listen to you for hours. You are my everything., You take my breath away. You look prettier than YOUR picture. I think you are perfect just the way you are. You light up any room that you walk into. Aren’t you the sweetest!? You’re the reason my life feels so perfect,. You always know how to surprise me. I wish I could have met you years ago You are such a good dancer, Spending time with you is the highlight of my day. I haven’t met a person who’s as nice and caring as you. Your eyes are so expressive and beautiful I can’t help but get lost in them. You make me feel so lucky when I’m around you. You make me want to be a better man. You understand me so well, it’s like you can read my mind. I am proud of you You are strong and powerful I am lucky you are mine............ You are best bride I ever seen, you are so beautiful...

You are the most handsome groom You look perfect for each other, you are a beautiful couple. I like your jokes You are the best I could list here more than a thousand compliments for any occasion but the idea is to have your eyes and ears open and give the appropriate compliment praising others for their good looks, talents , deeds and accomplishments at the right moment. That is the secret of giving effective sincere compliments.

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27)From the inside cover: After you read this book and you no longer need it , give it to someone else to read and benefit from the knowledge in this book. Knowledge is to be shared for the benefit all.

28)From the Author The human tongue is like a double edge sword which can do a lot of good with praising and positive words can uplift the human spirit and can also cause a lot of harm with bad words, contempt and vulgarity. Learn how to use words properly with uplifting genuine compliments to make people happy. By making other people feel good about themselves , you feel good too. Compliments is the glue, to any human relationships. It is like the honey to the bees. Compliments encourage A strong positive self image which is the best preparation for success in life. If you want to have a good life and better human interactions, learn how to give genuine compliments with a warm smile at the right place and time. It is my sincere hope, that after reading this book and start implementing the rules of giving and receiving sincere compliments to yourself and others,, that your life will be more fulfilling and rewarding.

29)FOR THE BACK COVER OF THE BOOK. This book is good for every one that wants to learn how to give and receive compliments in their daily life. This book will teach you how to give compliments to your kids. This book will show you why it is important to praise and compliment your wife. This book will teach you when to compliment others and when to keep your mouth shut. Compliments is the glue for good relationships. Compliments can be a useful tool to nurture and enhance relationships for life. Compliments create positive energy and benefits both the giver as well as the recipient. A Thoughtful compliment will strengthen your relationships, boost happiness and definitely bring a smile to someone's face. This book will tell you how to compliment your husband and what he wants to hear from you the most . This book will tell you why it is important to compliment yourself. This book will tell you why compliments is the opposite of bullying. Finally this book is about the proper use of words with uplifting compliments and how to make the world a better place with the appreciation of others.

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Did you love Compliments is the Glue to any Good Relationship, Like the Honey is to the Bees!? Then you should read Exercise For a Good Posture: Good posture means good looks and good health by S. ELIA!

The exercises I described in this book are the best for attaining and maintaining a good posture. All the people that have good postures , the professional athletes, the body builders, the military and the ballerinas are doing these exercises daily and that's how they attained their good postures. So if want to have a good posture, you have to follow the example of the people that they already have a good posture by doing these exercises daily. There is no other way to get a good posture without exercising.Unfortunately they have not invented a magic pill yet, to take it and give you a good posture. You and only you can do these exercises to improve your posture.! It is your body , it is your posture and nobody else can do these exercises to improve your posture. You do not need to go to the gym or expensive equipment to give you a good posture. The only thing you need is the right exercises and exercise your body daily in the privacy of your own home.Many people are wishing to have a good posture but they fail to do anything about it. Unfortunately, wishful thinking will never give you a good posture. If you are serious about improving your posture, you have to start doing the right exercises today, NOW, not tomorrow, not next week, not when you have the time. But right NOW! ! If you have the desire, will and determination to exercise daily you will achieve you desired goal. A perfect posture!Otherwise you will be left only with your dreams and your wishful thing for a good posture